Tuesday, December 30, 2008

This Was Part of Mary's Official Tour of NYC

If you'd like to salivate, just click here. I don't know what I would have done when people came to visit me in Connecticut and spend the weekend in NYC if they hadn't all been good eaters. I was all "Doughnut Plant! Francesco! Zabar's! Jacques Torres!" I pretty much had to roll everyone onto the airport shuttle.

I mention this only because I was just asked if there was anything I wanted from NYC, and all I could think of was food. Too bad pizza doesn't travel well.

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Complete with Bunny Slippers

In order to help you understand why I have been so frazzled lately, I feel I should offer the following insights into my personality:

1. I do best when life follows a routine.
2. I am not a morning person.
3. I am a classic introvert, meaning that I feel more energized when I have had a good bit of time alone.

Now I will offer glimpses into my life as of late:

1. I work for three different families, and while much of the time my schedule is regular, during the holidays I've worked odd hours for two of the three families.
2. Five days a week I have to be to work by 7am, and on the sixth it's 7:30.
3. All the parties and gatherings over the holidays coupled with my odd work hours meant that I was rarely by myself for an extended period of time.

I've been a little grumpy and overwhelmed. Which is why today I do not feel at all guilty that I have spent the entire day in my pajamas, surfing the internet.

Happy Sunday, everyone.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

All Aglow

Merry Christmas, everyone.

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Advent Calendar, December 24

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

One Dark and Lonely Among So Many Little Lights

Hard to believe that tomorrow is Christmas Eve...

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Advent Calendar, December 23

Monday, December 22, 2008

Just Two More

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Advent Calendar, December 22

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Tired Twenty

I've had a little too much Christmas, and it's not even Christmas yet. Next year we'll vacation somewhere warm and send everyone post cards as presents.

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Advent Calendar, December 20

Friday, December 19, 2008

It Won't Be Long Now

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Advent Calendar, December 19

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Beginning the Last Row

Time flies.

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Advent Calendar, December 18

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Sweet Sixteen

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Advent Calendar, December 16

Monday, December 15, 2008


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Advent Calendar, December 15

Only $1000 Later, and Our Car is the Cleanest It's Been Since 2003

If you wreck your car the weekend before Thanksgiving week, please note that it will take more than four weeks to get it back. Try to plan your auto accidents for a more convenient time of year. Also, call your insurance agent and make sure your deductible for collision is the same as for comprehensive, and not double the amount. The $500 that will stay in your pocket will thank me for this later.

So we have our car back, which is wonderful. It's also been cleaned, which makes it even more wonderful. Not so wonderful is the fact that I work with two kids who rarely remember to pay attention to where their limbs go or whether or not they are dirty, so it won't be that way for long. Which is why I am taking the borrowed Kia to pick them up one last time today. Call me selfish, but...well...you'd be right. I love both kids dearly, but boy can they ever make a mess without even trying. If I were to enumerate the number of times we've had the "If the towel is dirty after you dry your hands on it, you didn't get them clean enough when you were washing them" conversation, you might pass out thinking of all that wasted breath. I have this fantasy that when Jarod and I have kids, they will use the towels properly, but I'll probably just end up getting and Xlerator installed in the house and make the kids use that. I'm thinking the chrome model looks nice...

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Fourteen for Rejoicing

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Advent Calendar, December 14

A Baker's Dozen, Lucky Thirteen

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Advent Calendar, December 13

Friday, December 12, 2008

Brighter by the Dozen

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Advent Calendar, December 12

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Wednesday, December 10, 2008


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Advent Calendar, December 10

Tuesday, December 09, 2008

Nine to Light a Snowy Night

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Advent Calendar, December 9

Settle In and Get Cozy

About forty-five minutes ago I set out to run an errand eventually end up at yoga. I made it all the way to 89th and Summit before I realized that there were cars getting stuck halfway up hills all over town, and it wasn't going to get any easier. I'm not much on muscling through and driving even when conditions are questionable, so I headed home, and here I'll stay for the balance of the evening. You should stay in, too. Get some hot chocolate or tea or whatever and cozy up.

Since I'm housebound, and possibly you are, too, I suppose it's the most opportune time to inflict my opinions on you. Stop reading if you're sensitive about the opinions of others, which may not match your own. Unless you agree with me, you'll probably be hopping mad by the time you're done reading, and then you might do something untoward. Save us all the trouble; just navigate to another page. You were forewarned about the topic, but in case you have forgotten, I'm about to be dreadfully honest about how I feel about IVF versus adoption. Make your escape now if you must.

It's pretty simple, really, how I feel about the whole thing. I am not in favor of in vitro fertilization, or of any fertility treatment that is similarly extensive and costly. While I would love to have the experience of being pregnant once, I am at a loss to understand the deep, desperate longing of women to carry a baby to term in their own bodies, or even to have someone else carry a baby to term for them. Are we so attached to our own genes that we must go to such lengths? There are children out there who have no family, and yet we would spend an equal amount trying to create a brand new life instead. That just boggles my mind. Furthermore, the risks associated with hormone treatments required to complete IVF are many and some are potentially life threatening. I don't know about you, but carrying my own biological child to term is not worth the risk of OHSS or ovarian cancer. And did I mention the children who already exist?

I am very pro-adoption. In fact, regardless of whether we have a biological child, we will adopt, and lately I'm leaning more toward only adopting. I believe quite passionately that every child deserves a family. It is not the fault of a child that he or she was born to parents who were unwilling to parent responsibly or in a situation that made it impossible for the birth family to raise the child. These are precious babies! And yet many of us would close our minds to the possibility that adoption can make a beautiful family. We are used to our preferences being honored and our whims being satisfied, and so we fail to look beyond the one method we thought we'd use to build the family that we want. How unfortunate for all of us.

I know that this is an emotionally charged topic. I know that there are many families who have chosen to build their families through fertility treatments; I am not saying that your children are not precious or that they should not exist, any more than someone who has a surprise pregnancy would ever say that their child should not exist. I am simply saying that maybe we should look beyond that for the future. Maybe we should look hope and love full in the face and make a better choice.

Monday, December 08, 2008

Sunday, December 07, 2008

Seven Candles to Begin the Week of Peace*

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Advent Calendar, December 7

*In Church tradition, each week of Advent has its own theme. Last week was waiting; this week is peace.

Saturday, December 06, 2008

Half a Dozen Tiny Lights

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Advent Calendar, December 6

I Ate Too Many Peanut M&M's Today

I really need to stop buying M&M's of any sort. I end up eating them instead of real food. For example, today I ate mint M&M's, peanut M&M's, a couple slices of turkey from the fridge at work, and a ham sandwich. I also drank a coffee. I thought about that as I was heading out on my run and figured that while the calorie intake was probably sufficient, nutrient intake was definitely lacking. At least the bread was homemade and the ham was all natural uncured something or other.


The kids had their school Christmas program last night, and it was pretty adorable. Mary Liz's group wore sheep masks for their first number, and Jack's first song featured Elvis's Christmas-themed cousin, Elfis, complete with white jumpsuit and wicked sideburns. We had a terrible time getting the kids ready to go, what with Jack unable to find anything he was supposed to be wearing and Mary Liz insisting that her crocs were dressy enough, then throwing an enormous fit when I told her that she had to wear her real dress shoes. We've been working very hard lately on learning to calm down and accept when things are not exactly as she likes them to be. It's pretty rough. We do a lot of deep breathing exercises with my favored accompaniment of "Okaaaaaaaay. (deep breath together) Okaaaaaaaaaaay. (deep breath again) Okaaaaaaaaaaaay." I love her to death, and I'd really hate for her first five boyfriends to have to endure this kind of torture, so I keep at it even when I'd like to just put her in her room and tell her she can have no more fun, ever, not even a little bit.


I'm nearly done with my Christmas shopping and wrapping. If our kitchen gets finished this weekend and I can put the tools back in the basement, it will free up space for our Christmas tree, so we'll have something to put all these wrapped gifts under. Because heaven forbid that I should buy gifts and not wrap them immediately. The sky would probably fall and then I'd be left with a pile of crushed gifts. As it is, I have a pile of wrapped gifts sitting randomly in the living room.


I've had a lot of controversial things on my mind lately, but I'm always afraid to say them here for fear that suddenly the internet trolls will rain down their fire and brimstone upon me and my hideous intolerance. But I've got a little post brewing about adoption versus IVF, so hold on to your bonnets if you're highly in favor of science aiding in human reproduction.


For now it's off to bed, where I should have been an hour ago, had I not run late and subsequently been WIDE! AWAKE! thanks to running's upper effect.

Goodnight, all.

Friday, December 05, 2008

Five for Friday

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Advent Calendar, December 5

Thursday, December 04, 2008

Small Still, But Stronger

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Advent Calendar, December 4

Wednesday, December 03, 2008

So Dark, So Bright

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Advent Calendar, December 3

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Little By Little, The Light Will Grow

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Advent Calendar, December 2

Accomplished, Sorta

Things I Have Done Today:
1. Took a nap with the cats.
2. Read.
3. Drank coffee.
4. Replied to/wrote emails.
5. Made dental appointments.
6. Attempted to make eye appointments.
7. Gift shopped.
8. Ate potato chips (bought while gift shopping) in the car.
9. Picked up things I forgot yesterday at Target.
10. Wrapped gifts.
11. Ate peanut M&M's.
12. Copied Jarod's December schedule into my Moleskine planner.
13. Ran the dishwasher.
14. Unloaded the dishwasher.

Later I might roast some squash. I'd feel a sense of accomplishment, but I did not set out to do any of the listed activities. The things I was supposed to do all remain undone.


Monday, December 01, 2008